Posts Tagged ‘egg donor agencies’

Meeting the Donor

Monday, May 17th, 2010

Part 3 in Brenda Fahn-Hardt’s informal discussion for Intended Parents.

Meeting the Donor?  There is No Right Choice.

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At some point during the egg donor process most parents consider whether or not they should meet their egg donor.  There is no right or wrong answer to this question.  Each case is different and depends on the intentions and expectations of the intended parents.  If their expectations seem reasonable and realistic, then meeting the egg donor can turn into a very positive experience.  Most of the time intended parents want to be able to meet their donor so that they have the option of telling their child at a later date.  Statistically, only about 20% of intended parents choose to meet their donor.  If you intend to tell your child that they were conceived with an egg donor and you want to tell your child something about the donor, then meeting would likely be a positive experience.  Many times parents to not have an interest in, or feel comfortable, meeting their donor, which of course should always be respected.  Each situation is different.

- Brenda Fahn-Hardt M.S., MFT

Beverly Hills Egg Donation Staff Psychotherapist

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I ♥ My Egg Donor

Thursday, February 5th, 2009

BHED (Beverly Hills Egg Donation) helped make our dreams come true!!  It took me many a month to find my donor; only because it did not turn to BHED first!  There were so many egg donor agencies out there, but none measured up to the quality and standards of BHED.  When I went onto their site it was three minutes until I saw the face of our egg donor.  I panicked thinking it was all too good to be true, and it was a matter of minutes before Lisa, the founder of BHED, got back to me!  The information on my donor was more extensive and complete than any of the ten other egg donation agencies I had been looking through day after day, trying to find “her”.  Not only that, but Lisa answered hundreds of questions of my behalf and always got back to me asap with a very caring, businesslike, and to-the-point attitude.  When dealing with even “noted” and highly recommended agencies, besides BHED, no such thing happened.  I caught some of the other reps, many a time, trying to “back-peddle” the information they had given me.

Then came our dear Ellie, our donor rep., who became my friend.  She would email me anything I asked for whether it be more pictures of our donor, a calming note to help me in a panic attack, continual updates on the movement of everything, and even passed along notes that I wised for our donor to read.  These people became family to us, and it felt like they wanted this dream to come true for us just as much as we did!

They truly have the most beautiful and highest-quality egg donors and a professional, NO B.S., to-the-point staff; and I know because we went looking through many different agencies before I found My BHED.  We had actually found an egg donor through one of the others, but our doctor advised us against her because of her family’s medical history.  It is something BHED puts extensively right out in front so we were aware of everything before making our choice, and as not to waste precious time.  When I saw our donor at BHED, I knew we had found her, we had found each other!  They talk about that “feeling” you get when it is all just “right”, but I was not aware of it until BHED.  We are now five months pregnant, and all our prayers have been answered.  Thank you my donor, and thank you Lisa, Ellie, our amazing lawyer connected to the agency, and all at BHED!!!  Happy New Year, this one will truly BE a happy one for us!  God bless, and may all your dreams come true on your journey!

-Wendy, Recipient

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On the CNN story “Egg Donors on the Rise”:

Friday, January 16th, 2009

I am a donor with BHED (Beverly Hills Egg Donation) and anytime I catch the words ‘egg donor’ between diaper changes and operating my business on the TV I turn to look.

Women are flocking to egg donor agencies (per CNN HLN) because of the economic crisis for the need of money and the high level earnings made from cycles.

So I called in and got to speak for about a minute!

I advised that prospective donors should not just get involved with the egg donation process because of desperation in a failing economy but because they truly would like to help out the families that are in need healthy eggs. Infertility is a disease! I worry that a woman in a desperate circumstance may not be able to handle the commitment it takes to be a donor. I added that money is disposable where as helping to create life is not.

I am so happy to be an egg donor – the families I have helped are able to have what they wanted so dearly, a family of their own. This Christmas I know there is a couple I helped that will be sitting around the tree with their little one (as I will be) and that is something more rewarding than any dollar amount.

-Suzi, Donor

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