Posts Tagged ‘egg donors’

Growing

Monday, February 15th, 2010

iStock 000004609436XSmall 300x199 Growing

Check out our freshly updated “Who We Are” page to meet the newest staff members to join the BHED team.  Liz Bader-Natal, Bay Area Coordinator,  provides support to Donors and Intended Parents throughout the duration of the cycle.  Sally Blackford manages our online server and has lent a tremendous hand in keeping day-to-day administrative work running smoothly.  And Diana Ashley, a previous donor herself, works in Donor Outreach to keep each of our donor’s profiles accurate and up-to-date.

With the increases that we’ve seen in every area – from donor applicants to interview, to cycles to manage and medical records to request (and fax, and file, and update…), these ladies have jumped in with both feet and done a stellar job helping our program grow with grace.

  • Share/Bookmark

Newest BHED Babies!

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

These two GORGEOUS little girls were born, via a gestational surrogate, to clients Dave and John.

david1 300x246 Newest BHED Babies!

Congratulations, guys!!!

  • Share/Bookmark

The Not-So Drawn Out Blood Draw

Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

The post below comes to us from Diana, a two-time previous donor who is also a staff member at Beverly Hills Egg Donation.  To read her first entry, dealing with overcoming her anxiety about self-injections, click here.

iStock 000002253915Small 225x300 The Not So Drawn Out Blood DrawNow, let’s get on to the business of having blood drawn during your cycle.  Sure, I recently discovered it’s a piece of cake to have a needle in my skin for a second during an injection, but what about a needle being nestled into my vein for more than a minute as my precious life force is drained from my body into a cold heartless vial?  This would be tricky.  For those of you who hate having blood drawn, you are not alone.  I was the girl who broke into a cold sweat, literally soaking my shirt the minute I sat in the strange school-desk chair, oddly appropriate as I would often be having an internal fit reminiscent of a 2nd grader, and was handed that ball to squeeze.  I hadn’t had blood taken in so long (and hardly remember the last go around after having fainted).  They call my name.  I walk over to what is referred to as the (ahem, cough, swallow) “Blood Station” with my iPod earphones in.

My deer in the headlights look is greeted by the kindest pair of eyes I’ve ever seen.  These eyes belong to Raul, the Phlebotomist.  He seems to notice my unease, perhaps my clenched fists and general lack of breathing or blinking, and says “I take it you’re not a fan of having your blood drawn?”  To which I say “Not a fan at all, maybe even a heckler” as a strange trail of nervous giggles leaks out of my clenched jaw.  I try to make jokes when I’m nervous, also to downplay how incredibly frightened I am, they’re also usually really horrible jokes as demonstrated.  But for some reason, Raul’s warm presence had me feel it was okay to just come clean, “I’m actually terrified of having my blood drawn.  In fact, it’s the only thing I’m afraid of.  Some people fear car accidents, life failure, earthquakes.  I fear sitting in that chair.  I usually pass out or vomit either before, during or after having my blood drawn.  In fact, I’ve avoided doing it for several years because I’m always so embarrassed by my fainting or throwing up.”  Wow, thanks for the biopic, Barbara Walters.  Raul is not at all put off by this, in fact, he appears to find this honesty refreshingly charming (this is what I tell myself after feeling like I just shared some sort of Judy Blume confessional diary entry).  He’s not looking at me like the high-maintenance mess that’s about to make his job a huge pain.  He puts his hand on my shoulder and says, “I’m really good, you won’t feel a thing.  Let’s have you lie down.”  I lay down and already feel 100 times better than I usually did in the chair.  I say, “Raul, I’m going to turn my music up really loud while you do this.”  He smiles and says, “No problem, do what you have to do.”  I turn on my music and the next thing I know Raul is telling me it’s over.  I couldn’t believe it.  I sat up and almost cried.  ”You’re the best Raul!  The best!  You’re the fastest blood-taker in the west!  You’re a blood-taking ninja!”  Raul was laughing, I was laughing.  It was a regular feel good Who’s the Boss episode where Raul lovingly pats me on the head and calls me “Saman-ta”.

Stock PhotoSo what made this go-around so different than previous blood draws?  Quite simply, being open and honest with the Phlebotomist about my fear.  For so long I had tried to”hide” it, as I was painfully embarrassed that a woman my age couldn’t handle what, in the grand scheme of things, is such a simple thing to do.  Come to think of it, after voicing my fear, I immediately had a sense of relief.  That seems to be true for most things in life, I suppose.  We often make ourselves so uncomfortable trying to cover up what we’re afraid of, or ignoring it all together, that it grows into a larger, scarier beast (perhaps simply to get our attention).  If I were to distill my fear, it really came down to the embarrassment of fainting or throwing up.  By sharing my fear with Raul, he was empowered to help me and make some adjustments so that didn’t happen.  So, if you have any fear or anxiety about having your blood drawn, be sure to share that information with the nurse or Phlebotomist, they’re actually extremely accommodating.  After, you might notice that the only drawn out thing about a blood draw is you driving yourself crazy thinking about it.  Similar to the rules that apply to those who have a difficult mother-in-law – acknowledge the fear, but you don’t have to invite it out to lunch and entertain it.

-Diana, BHED donor #4829

  • Share/Bookmark

Face-to-Face Interviews, 3,000 Miles Away

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

BusinesswomanFor our applicants who live outside of the Los Angeles area, we conduct our interviews via webcam, which gives us the exceptional ability to say that we’ve actually met each one of the egg donors on our database!  I’ve worked with other agencies in the past and I can’t say that the same is true for those organizations.  This gives us the confirmation that the person on the other end really is who they say they are, and gives us a much better feel for the donor’s personality and character.  I really enjoy being able to communicate with a donor in this way.  Some donors who have children of their own will even bring their child(ren) to the camera for a few minutes.  I also love seeing a donor who takes copious notes during our interview – when I can see her writing, it’s confirmation to me that she wants to make sure she knows what is required of her.

More and more of our applicants now have their own cameras that they are able to use for the interview, and for donors who don’t we will send one out via UPS.  From a logistics standpoint, this system actually runs surprisingly smoothly.  The only challenge I’ve experienced when working with webcams is that some donors who have never used a webcam before might have some trouble setting it up, but that is usually sorted out quickly and we can start the interview.  When the interview is over the donor just sends the camera back to us to be used by another candidate.  The process of sending the camera back is very simple as well – we provide them with a return label so there is no expense to the donor.  It makes it easy for everyone!

-Susan Rai, Beverly Hills Egg Donation 

  • Share/Bookmark

The Call to Start a Family

Sunday, January 10th, 2010

Allie5 300x225 The Call to Start a FamilyI stumbled upon the idea of egg donation a couple of years ago when a friend was looking at job postings on Craigslist.  While neither of us considered the idea too seriously at the time; it stuck with me, not as a money making idea, but as an awesome thing to do for a woman or a family.  I looked at a few donation websites recently and when I found BHED, I knew this was something I wanted to do.  I immediately felt comfortable with their website and staff, and started to get really excited about the possibility of my little eggs creating a life for someone else.

As I grow older, I can feel an inner tugging towards wanting a family.  My mom always used to tell me the story of how she decided to have my older brother and me.  She had lunch with an old friend who had a newborn baby and thought, “It’s time.  I want that.”  When I was young, I thought I never wanted kids and my mom’s story sounded so cliche to me.  I’m not ready to have kids now, but I’m finally beginning to understand how my mom felt.  To have a baby inside you is such a gift.  I want to help make that happen for someone.

-Allie, donor #7265

  • Share/Bookmark

How to Needle Your Way Out of Injection Anxiety

Thursday, October 22nd, 2009

I’d like to dedicate this entry to my needle fearing friends.  You know who you are.  The gal that hears the word “needle” one moment and finds herself hanging upside down from the ceiling fan the next.  The thought of having blood taken for some is a minor inconvenience, but, for you, it’s a nightmare equal to that of having a spider crawl in your ear and hang a finely crocheted web on your cochlea.  The smell of rubbing alcohol at a doctor’s office triggers a sort of Pavlov’s Dog response to pull down your shirt sleeves and put your veins on lock down.  I know who you are because, a few months ago, I was you.

istock 000003069134small4 How to Needle Your Way Out of Injection AnxietyI’ll be honest, when I decided to donate I was so excited about the idea of helping someone have a child that I had sort of “overlooked” the logistics of injections and having weekly blood draws.  This honeymoon phase vanished the moment I received my box of medication, which included about 30 needles.  I quickly ran over to my roommate and showed her in horror.  She shrugged and said, “They’re tiny”.  Yeah, okay, tough guy, they’re tiny.  But, lest us not forget, they’re still NEEDLES.  A tiny cockroach is still a cockroach.  Besides, it’s all relative.  Your tiny is my huge.  Your “it’s just a needle” is my nightmare on ice with a sprig of nausea.

Fast forward to my first injection.  The staff at my doctor’s office thoroughly explained the process of how to do a self-administered injection, so I did feel a little more at ease – empowered with knowledge as they say.  **Side note: the staff at the office I went through were simply amazing.  Take the opportunity to get to know the staff at whatever office you go through.  They are an invaluable asset to the entire process, like your medically trained cheerleaders.  Back to my first date with the needle: I got home and paced around like an anxious cat who kept hearing its name being called.  I looked at the clock, it was ten minutes until I was scheduled to do my injection.  I laid out my supplies – the alcohol pad, the needle, the vile of Lupron and (what I will reveal to you as the holy grail of injections, ladies) my slightly frozen can of diet coke.  Who would have thought a diet coke could contain such power that, if wielded correctly, could erase a lifetime of fear.  I suppose it did skyrocket Cindy Crawford’s career and make us all go cut our jeans into shorts.  So here’s the deal: throw a can of soda in the freezer for a bit and let it get nice and cold.  Five minutes before your scheduled injection, numb the area.  My nurse suggested numbing it for a minute, but for this first go-around I decided to put every last sensation in my skin to sleep…five minutes for me, thanks.  I numbed the area, went over it with an alcohol pad, let it dry, and drew up my dose in a syringe.  In that moment, I had an epiphany – if Katherine Heigl’s character on Grey’s Anatomy can do it, I can do it.  I pinched the skin on my tummy, lined up the needle, took a breath, istock 000007383548xsmall7 200x300 How to Needle Your Way Out of Injection Anxietylooked away and put it in (at a 90 degree angle).  When I looked back down, the needle was in but I was completely shocked, I couldn’t feel anything.  Nothing.  Zip.  I want to be clear here and say, I am a wus about this stuff and I honestly couldn’t even feel it.  I released the tummy pinch, pushed the dose in, removed the needle (pull straight out), wiped over the area with alcohol and did a victory phone lap, calling about ten of my closest friends to tell them that I was a fearless Goddess Warrior who may have missed her calling as a professional shot giver.  As strange as it sounds, I was actually looking forward to my next injection.

I think that my greatest piece of advice in regards to how to cope with injection anxiety would be to remember that we’re often our own worst enemies – psyching ourselves out, telling ourselves “I can’t do this”.  I’m here to tell you that if I can, you most certainly can.  Think of some of the stuff you’ve overcome in your life.  In comparison, I’m sure that needle truly is tiny.

 

-Diana, BHED donor #4829

  • Share/Bookmark

For the BHED Egg Donor – What Can I Do While I’m Waiting to be Matched?

Friday, April 3rd, 2009

Once you’ve reached the end of the application process and had a successful interview with a member of our donor team, our staff will add your profile to our database of donors for recipients to peruse.

Congratulations, you’re now an active donor with BHED (Beverly Hills Egg Donation)!

There can be quite a lot to do leading up to this point – gathering pictures and transcripts, doing your own research on the donation process, putting together information on your family’s medical history, and scheduling your interview – that it may seem like the flurry of activity tapers off slightly after you’ve finally been made active.  One of the questions we get a lot is, “how long will it take for me to be matched?”  To tell the truth, there’s no way of knowing.  Some egg donors are matched within a matter of days, and for others it takes longer – sometimes even weeks or months.  It’s really all a matter of the right recipient coming across your profile at the right time, and for some donors, that doesn’t happen right away.

The most important thing to do during this time is to make sure to keep your profile accurate and up-to-date.  Review your profile occasionally and contact us with any changes in contact info, updates/successes in school or work, or new information regarding your medical history.  Also, we always love to have new pictures to add to your profile so feel free to keep them coming!  We store the extras on our server in case a potential recipient requests to see them.

Another big thing to keep in mind while you’re waiting to be matched is to make sure you’re easy to get in touch with.  Sometimes a recipient has a couple of donors they’re interested in, and wants to make a decision quickly, so make sure to respond to any phone calls or emails that you get from us as promptly as possible.  You’ll also receive a phone call from our team every three months to confirm your availability.

Finally, a great thing to do after you’ve been activated is come to one of our photo shoots!  We hold these shoots every 4-6 weeks in West LA.  It’s a wonderful way to get beautiful, professional photos to enhance your profile and it’s totally free to you.  It takes just 15 minutes of your time, and you get a high-resolution jpeg of your favorite shot to keep.

Of course, you can feel free to contact us at any time with questions or to see if there’s been interest in your profile.

We look forward to seeing you matched!

  • Share/Bookmark

The BHED Difference

Saturday, March 14th, 2009

So many BHED (Beverly Hills Egg Donation) donors are accomplished, well-educated young women, that we thought it might be valuable to give you some highlights now and again. Our list of dedicated egg donors includes women who speak three and four languages, college graduates with 4.0 GPAs, and women working on their Master’s Degrees and even PhDs.

Among our linguists, we can count Alexa #3127 who speaks Czech, Ticiana #2995 who is a native Portuguese speaker, Thomasina #4798 who learned Italian in college and is now fluent, and Natalia #870 who speaks both Russian and Chuvash. Asha #4746 speaks four languages – English, Hindi, Tamil, and Telugu.

Our college graduates boast degrees in a wide variety of disciplines. For example, Lynn #4857 has a degree in Architecture, while Ashley #4593 graduated Summa Cum Laude with a B.A. in Theology. Jeni #3093 completed her B.S. in Economics at UCLA, Lisa #3986 has a degree in Zoology, and Lynnea #4083 is pursuing her degree in Biopsychology.

We have quite a few donors who have completed or are enrolled in Master’s programs, including Terri #4759, Jennifer #4389, Hannon #4506, and Michelle #4577.

In blogs to come, we’ll highlight state-and-nationally recognized athletes, dedicated volunteers (including several donors who have started their own non-profits), state beauty pageant winners, professional models and much more! We continue to be impressed with the outstanding and altruistic young women that are part of our donor program.

-Alexa Abrams, BHED Director of Donor Recruitment

  • Share/Bookmark

Egg Donor Compensation: How Much is Too Much and What Exactly are You Paying For? (Part Two)

Thursday, March 12th, 2009

In terms of how much to compensate an egg donor, the ASRM report specifically states that payments to donors “should be fair and not so substantial that they become undue inducements that will lead the donors to discount risks.”  This is a point that I feel cannot be stressed enough.  Any donor assumes certain risks – medical, emotional, and even financial, and being a donor is a huge responsibility.  They spend hours being screened, filling out health history information, going to appointments, and undergoing the retrieval procedure.  We want to make sure that the donor is not so enamored by the compensation that she will receive that she doesn’t fully assess the risks and responsibilities that go hand in hand with participating in a donor cycle.

istock 000006556811small 300x214 Egg Donor Compensation: How Much is Too Much and What Exactly are You Paying For? (Part Two)

The report goes on to state that while there is no consensus on the exact amount of compensation a donor should receive that “sums of $5,000 or more require justification and sums above $10,000 are not appropriate.”  I believe that anytime one sees an advertisement promising more than these recommended amounts, or anytime a donor requests a fee in excess of these amounts, one should proceed with caution.  Additionally, there are many clinics and physicians that will not work with a donor requesting a fee higher than the ASRM suggested guidelines.  The ASRM report makes it clear that programs (agencies) recruiting donors and anyone assisting a recipient that has recruited their own donor should establish a compensation structure that “minimizes the possibility of undue inducement of donors and the suggestion that payment is for the [eggs] themselves.”

istock 000002660202medium 200x300 Egg Donor Compensation: How Much is Too Much and What Exactly are You Paying For? (Part Two)This can lead to the following issue that I am constantly debating with friends and colleagues: if these guidelines exist, why are some donors offered twelve, fifteen, or twenty thousand dollars (or more) for their donations?  If you have an “elite” fee or an “elite” program, where fees are higher based on education, talent, appearance, or IQ and test scores, aren’t you in fact paying for “superior” eggs?  And doesn’t that completely contradict what the ASRM report has stated?  If the ASRM guidelines are all we in this industry have to go by, I think that anyone in the field owes it to the integrity of the field in general, and the the individuals involved specifically, to maintain the guidelines to the best of their ability.

-Kate Lyon, Attorney at Law

  • Share/Bookmark

Egg Donor Compensation: How Much is Too Much and What Exactly are You Paying For? (Part One)

Monday, March 2nd, 2009

istock24464973 150x150 Egg Donor Compensation: How Much is Too Much and What Exactly are You Paying For? (Part One)Egg / Ova / Oocyte Donation* offers a viable option to women who have been told that they cannot or should not attempt to achieve a pregnancy using their own egg(s).  This can be, and generally is, an extremely emotional step for any individual or couple to take.  It is also one that can be costly.  With the current state of our economy, the expenses related to any infertility treatment are being more closely examined by those that find themselves in need of such treatment, and the compensation provided to donors is just one of these expenses to consider.  With more young women applying to become donors, because of the financial incentive that does exist, many of us in the field (and those that are thrust into this world because of their own fertility situation) are constantly wondering “how much is too much?”

As an attorney in the field, I take very seriously the responsibility of ensuring that the Egg Donation Agreements that donors and recipients (or “Intended Parents”) enter into are drafted appropriately, taking into consideration the standard of the industry and the guidelines that are available.  It is especially important to make clear not only the exact compensation the donor is going to receive, but what exactly the donor is being compensated for.

Smiling Baby

While in California, that state in which I practice, there are no laws that specifically deal with egg donation or compensation, the American Society of Reproductive Medicine has published a report that deals specifically with the financial compensation of egg donors.  (”ASRM Ethics Committee Report: Financial Compensation of Oocyte Donors,” Fertility and Sterility, Vol. 88,  No. 2, August 2007).   The report makes clear what many of us in the field so strongly believe: that compensation to egg donors is justified on ethical grounds, but care needs to be taken with the explanation and delineation of the structure of the compensation, as well as the amount of compensation.  Both donors and recipients need to clearly understand that the donor is receiving compensation for the time, inconvenience and discomfort associated with the entire egg donation process: from the screenings required before a donor can begin medication, to the actual cycle obligations (which includes taking various hormone medications), and then the retrieval procedure.

istock 000000713526small1 150x150 Egg Donor Compensation: How Much is Too Much and What Exactly are You Paying For? (Part One)

Compensation should never be dependent upon a certain number of eggs being retrieved or upon the quality of eggs being retrieved (which can, by extension, also mean that the fertilization rate of such eggs or whether or not a pregnancy is achieved from the donation should not be considered when structuring compensation).  The ASRM report even goes on to state that compensation should not vary based on the number or outcome of prior donation cycles or the ethnic or other qualifications/characteristics of the donor.

*In the assisted reproductive technology (”ART”) industry, professionals use several terms when discussing oocyte, or “egg” donation.  For purposes of uniformity, the term “egg” and/or “eggs” will be used in this entry.

-Kate Lyon, Attorney at Law

  • Share/Bookmark